Important note before proceeding

If you have to ask this question, then your abilities and experiences are not enough to effectively handle the challenges you will face in maintaining an intimate relationship with this girl.

Most people think that “having a plan first is the only way for me to make a decision.” Therefore, they keep searching and considering various plans before making a decision.

This may seem natural and reasonable, but it leads to a difficulty: if the matter is even slightly complicated or difficult, all plans require sufficient determination as a prerequisite. You cannot find a smart and reliable plan that does not require determination and can easily achieve success.

A man is sitting in a chair, looking lost and confused. His girlfriend is standing in front of him, with tears streaming down her face. She is holding a positive pregnancy test in her hand. The man knows that the child is not his, but he doesn't know what to do. He loves his girlfriend, and he doesn't want to leave her. But he's also not sure if he can raise a child that isn't his own. The man feels trapped. He doesn't know what the right decision is.

You will likely only have a plan that is based on a “determined mindset of sacrificing everything, with the hope that there is a chance to avoid sacrifice,” and that this is the best plan you have, and there is no better plan.

Thus, people who are used to “finding a reliable plan before making a decision” will be stuck in a chicken-and-egg loop when facing an extremely difficult challenge as an adult - without a plan, there is no determination, and without determination, there is no plan.

What is an extremely difficult challenge?

Any task that requires more than six months of effort to see results will be an extremely difficult challenge where you cannot see the bottom.

Not to mention things that take decades to see results.

Whether it is a small project or a large project, a career, friendship, love, or family, to solve problems, determination must come first.

Determination must come first.

Only with determination first, can you possibly have suggestions and plans that correspond to this determination.

A man is sitting in a chair, looking lost and confused. His girlfriend is standing in front of him, with tears streaming down her face. She is holding a positive pregnancy test in her hand. The man knows that the child is not his, but he doesn't know what to do. He loves his girlfriend, and he doesn't want to leave her. But he's also not sure if he can raise a child that isn't his own. The man feels trapped. He doesn't know what the right decision is.