Why do my family members strongly oppose blood donation?

I am 20 years old, healthy, and have no special medical conditions. I run 5 kilometers every day in 21-22 minutes, so I am not weak. Because it rained for a few days and I couldn’t run, I went to donate blood when the blood donation vehicle stopped by the school gate. After the donation, I sent the blood donation certificate to the family Wechat group. However, they reacted with great anger and looked at me as if I were an idiot. I don’t understand why they think that such a glorious thing is a waste of time.

A young man stands in a school hallway, holding his blood donation certificate. His face is flushed with pride. Around him, a group of his family members looks at him with disapproval and anger. One of the family members is shaking their head in disbelief. Another is pointing an accusatory finger at the young man.

The question is asking why the author’s family members strongly opposed his decision to donate blood. The author is healthy and in good physical condition, and he had a good reason for donating blood. However, his family members reacted with anger and ridicule.

The author is confused about why his family members would react this way. He believes that donating blood is a noble act, and he doesn’t understand why they would see it as a waste of time.

Don’t Tell Others About Your Good Deeds

Good deeds should be done as anonymously as possible, especially with regard to people around you. It is your privacy, and there is no need to talk about it with others, which will only cause trouble.

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Why would they strongly oppose it? Because they often have an unconscious impulse to think that all “family resources” should be “managed by the family”. In essence, they subconsciously feel that they should have a share of the management power.

In fact, they do not have it. If you ask them directly, they will admit on the surface that these are your personal property and personal freedom, but in practice, they will still try to use this kind of criticism, complaints, and harassment to gain actual control and intervention power.

This is a habit that has accumulated for thousands of years, and it is an instinctive impulse of human beings. As soon as you trigger it, it is like the knee reflex when you kick it. The person involved did not want to kick you back, but before they could think and decide, their body had already reacted.

You will inevitably trigger their involuntary “resistance” - resisting your “misappropriation of resources that could have been used for our common interests.”

If you are sure that this is your own legal freedom, then just do it and take responsibility for yourself. Don’t be greedy for that sense of self-righteousness and show off in the family.

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In a sense, the instinctive views of family members are not unreasonable. After all, these resources are used in public welfare, and your family has indeed suffered a loss of common interests in reality.

This is like a police officer who is the first to arrest drug dealers and brings home the first prize. He would never naively think that his wife would come to praise him.

You just do it. If you expect your wife to praise you, or even scolded for not praising you, don’t you think it’s a bit too cruel and demanding?

Even if you get the consent and encouragement of your wife and children in advance, you should know that you can’t take out the trophy and medal yourself to show off at home.

Whether or not to put it out should be the right of the “victims” of your wife and children. This is the minimum that can be called love and protection.

In essence, doing good deeds is sacrificing your loved ones. You should have at least a minimum awareness of this, and don’t push people too hard or blame them too much.

Why should good deeds not be left unnamed?

Because the more unselfish and selfless good deeds are, the more they are inevitably a torment and burden to the family.

This is not only a matter of “noble morality”, but also a wise choice in reality.