Do Not Assist grudge holders

To put it this way, whoever becomes cynical and full of resentment, your best choice is to stay away from them.

This does not affect the contractual relationship of survival - for example, if you owe someone debt, you still have to pay it back, and it’s even better to pay it back quickly.

Existing contracts must also be executed, and even more strictly enforced. However, this relationship must be pulled apart. Don’t have any entanglement because of friendship or sympathy.

If you are in distress but not cynical, not full of resentment, then your distress will be the best opportunity to invest in yourself, and wise people will actively consider seizing this opportunity to buy in. As the saying goes, “a drop of water will repay a gushing spring.” This is the lowest threshold and highest return business in the world. How can you easily let it go?

However, once you become cynical and full of resentment, sorry, regardless of whether you are caused by distress or other reasons that move you to heaven and earth, or whether you are still wealthy and powerful, the rational choice is to pull away and recover your investment.

This has nothing to do with the reason, it is purely a survival rule. Anyone who develops towards evil is a negative asset and will only continue to cause losses. If you don’t stop loss in time, you will go downhill, and all the people who depend on you will pay the price.

Especially, you must not help anyone establish a “the more malicious you are, the more preferential treatment you get” conditioned reflex. Once anyone turns the blows they receive into resentment, shift blame to others, and explore towards the anti-social direction, then you have the obligation to pull away from them.

Don’t worry about how this person will turn out because there are natural mechanisms that exist to help such situations, and the original relationship people will distance themselves because of these signs of resentment, which creates a crisis for them, which is the first step of the whole mechanism.

The second step is that the person quickly realizes their crisis and begins to carefully consider what signals to send to those new contacts who have not yet had their relationships destroyed by these resentful messages. Those who have not experienced these resentments will naturally give the person new opportunities and help them develop new paths in life.

Especially with this push and pull, it will maximize the chance of a person awakening and realizing that no matter what happens, there is no reasonable excuse for doing evil and abandoning goodness, because it goes against the principles of heaven. This principle is not implemented through any magical soul-stirring messenger or coincidence of cause and effect but is automatically implemented through the simple social law of “resentment equals exile.”

If you are full of resentment, all the relationships that receive the signal will be damaged, and only the relationships that have not been contaminated can remain. You can only establish and cultivate relationships if you abandon resentment. It’s that simple.

Once a person understands this point through social coordination, they will naturally reflect on the reasons for their exile- the reason was not “friends being heartless and unrighteous,” but that loyalty does not include assisting grudge holders.

Unfortunately, there are some confused people in this society who often put “helping the needy” above “not assisting grudge holders,” ignore the taboo of the latter, and seek moral pleasure from the former.

These people will initially receive high praise from the complainers, seeing them as “genuine friends”. However, in the end, they will face the same fate as the person they tried to help.

But the plot will quickly deteriorate from here on.

People who believe that “damaged can be legitimately abandoned moral principles” cannot stop the downward trend. It will not be reversed by your delivery of indifferent companionship and sympathy.

If you offer real benefits, it will be even worse - the narration of harm and the spread of resentment and bitterness will objectively become a new and effective logic for profit.

So why bother with the dirty and messy labor of “working hard”? What is the next plot?

It is that they will continue to deteriorate, their crisis will deepen, and you will not be able to keep up with their demands. You will develop into “the person who gains their deepest trust and dependence but abandons them when they need you the most”.

Basically, the last scene of this plot is “they repeatedly warn you that they want to commit suicide, but you are indifferent.” After all, you are better than all the other people in terms of “kindness” and “enthusiasm”, so of course you will be the protagonist of the final scene.

Do you think they will see you as “the greatest good person” or “the most hypocritical traitor” in their eyes?

Ironically, you may see them fine the next day, talking and laughing with new friends who don’t know any of this. This time, they know not to say those things, they know they can’t mess things up or ruin new relationships.

They may even apologize and repent to the group of people who left early and didn’t know the rest of the plot, because they still have a good chance of repairing some relationships.

They deeply reflect and reform themselves, and are now active and sunny, truly admirable, and of course, a positive asset.

But as the witness of the last scene, regardless of whether they have the courage to apologize to you, can you dare to restore the relationship? Can you believe that this won’t happen again?

So what? You add up the balance sheet - the first group of “heartless” people who left early didn’t suffer much loss and didn’t receive much resentment, and they even got an apology in the end; the new and unaware people didn’t suffer any losses or resentment.

But You, who thought that “assisting the needy in distress” was more important than “not assisting the resentful,” suffered the greatest loss and received the greatest resentment, and are also the least likely to receive an apology.

What natural law do you think this phenomenon illustrates? If you don’t agree, you can try it and see if the plot develops like this. What does this social mechanism suggest to you?

Now let’s talk about the issue of assisting those in need. If you want to assist those in need in a healthy way, you need to adhere to this iron law first -

1. Clearly declare that priority should be given to helping people in distress who can restrain their resentment and adhere to principles. Do not prioritize helping cynical and resentful people.

Make it clear that it is not that you won’t help them, but you won’t prioritize them. This clear declaration will naturally have a deterrent effect on people, suppressing their impulse to speak recklessly in front of you.

2. Conduct less investigation and less stimulation, and avoid causing trouble for them in front of you.

If you don’t commit a crime in front of me, I won’t actively dig and investigate, but if you do this in front of me, then I have already made it clear that I will follow the rules accordingly. Don’t whine and cry about it.

We must not aid complaints, but first help those in need.

This is not about “cold-heartedness” or “social norms,” but rather it is difficult to go against fate.