The Choice Between “Marrying One Person for Life” and “Having Many Exciting Love Affairs”

The number of romantic relationships a person has in a lifetime is not something that can be chosen by the individual, but rather is the natural outcome of their own dating patterns.

A person’s values and methods, along with their luck and social reality, all play a role in determining how many relationships they will have and what the ultimate outcome will be.

Two paths: One path leading to a single door symbolizing 'marrying one person for life,' and another path winding through a landscape with multiple doors representing 'having many exciting love affairs.' Use warm and vibrant colors to depict the excitement and passion associated with 'having many exciting love affairs.' Use calm and serene colors for portraying the stability and security of 'marrying one person for life.' Employ contrasting colors or lighting to represent the difference between the two choices.

It is not possible to simply decide to end or continue a relationship based on a preference for having many relationships or only one, because this is not up to the individual.

Since this is not a realistic scenario, it is also meaningless to think about one’s “strategy” or “choice” - this is essentially like thinking about whether you want the sun to be bigger or smaller, and then seriously analyzing the benefits of making it bigger or smaller.

The real question you should be asking is “how to adjust your values to choose people who are sustainable” and “how to adjust your methods to maximize the possibility of sustainability.”

A stable and constructive intimate relationship is the core asset of life, not the vanity that comes with a long list of conquests. There is no hesitation worth considering between the two.

A tree with deep roots: symbolizing a stable and deeply rooted relationship that withstands change and adversity.

There is only one path you can take - to stick to your values, constantly reflect and summarize to promote them towards the solution of the above two problems, and then go with the flow, trying your best to continue each relationship to the end that you can endure. However many relationships you have, that’s how many you have.

In fact, the above path has already naturally rejected the so-called “principle” of “marrying one person for life.” Because this is not a principle at all, but rather a personal concrete pursuit, or even more accurately - an ambition.

If you must implement this strategy, logically, it will inevitably lead to you having to change your principles and values indefinitely in order to indefinitely continue the relationship, even if you have changed to the point of being antisocial, anti-human, and against the laws of nature. And this is very likely to lead to negative feedback from society and nature, which are usually ruthless disasters that no human being can ignore or “overcome” with their will. At that time, it is likely that you are still willing to welcome destruction, but the other party does not want to bear the sin - you will not break up with the other party, the other party will break up with you.

Two paths: One path leading to a single door symbolizing 'marrying one person for life,' and another path winding through a landscape with multiple doors representing 'having many exciting love affairs.' Use warm and vibrant colors to depict the excitement and passion associated with 'having many exciting love affairs.' Use calm and serene colors for portraying the stability and security of 'marrying one person for life.' Employ contrasting colors or lighting to represent the difference between the two choices.

Therefore, the so-called “marrying one person for life” is not an option on the table.

Life is only about fulfilling one’s duties and doing one’s best. The rest is up to fate, so don’t be attached to it.

As long as you are proactive, you have a high chance of becoming a mature person who can live in harmony with one-third of the people on Earth for a lifetime. At this point, it doesn’t matter who fate assigns to you.