Why are depressed people always outgoing even cheerful?

In fact, “appearing cheerful and confident” itself is often a symptom of depression.

Because outsiders’ severe unprofessional intervention when dealing with depression, once any gloominess or negativity is revealed, it easily attracts a large amount of crude, unhelpful “concern” and “comfort”.
- Depressed people often acutely sense that the initiators of such “concern” and “comfort” often hold a mentality of “paying to buy peace”.
- Once the initiator has “shown concern” and “comforted”, but the recipient does not get better, the initiator subconsciously feels they paid a cost but did not receive the “goods”, and will attack the recipient of “concern” and “comfort” in a mentality of condemning selling counterfeit goods and embezzlement. The end result is often deteriorating or consuming relationships.
- Calculating cost and benefit, it is an overall loss. Moreover, it is a widespread, large-scale loss.
- The net result is an extremely rapid deterioration of one’s social relationships and social environment, with only severe worsening rather than improvement of one’s circumstances.

In other words, once someone falls into depression, they will learn from several real lessons in a very short time that it is best not to reveal it casually.

a. Otherwise as soon as friends see, or even sensitively perceive it, friends will disappear one by one.

b. Pay attention - many friends take “sensitively perceiving the other’s negative emotions and swiftly reacting” as the basic content and classic practice of “how to be a good friend”. After all, they have also been “educated” by rebukes like “You can’t even see how sad I am, what kind of friend are you?”, right?
Thus this leads depressed people having no choice but to block any possibility of even being “sensitively perceived” - the result is an airtight, flawless “cheerfulness and confidence”.
Therefore, this produces a bizarre outcome - precisely because they are depressed, they must appear “cheerful”.