Anger Management

First, live among people who love you, so that the consequences of your anger will often be naturally dissipated.

It is not just a matter of being useless and harmful to not be angry with someone who is unloving to you. The most important thing is that loveless people do not deserve it.

Second, don’t look at getting angry as a sign of justice.

Don’t feel that because you are all riled up and you must be on the side of justice - this is also the fundamental reason why countless children more tended to let their anger out.

People always think that they must be righteous, they do not angry just because they are tolerant enough, and if they angry, so shall it be.

In fact, the truth in the vast majority of cases are not as they expected, only that they do not listen.

Love is not provoked, not easily angered.

Unfortunately, what is popular now is a "I only love something that favorite or interest to me " concept, and people actually like only themselves, the essence of the so-called “like others”, is also mostly like others like themselves only. And this is not love at all.

Without love, there is no such a tool to control anger. It is just that sometimes anger is not very convenient so want to manage reasonably. On second thoughts, in the deeper mind, there are so many benefits to anger.

For example, if a tiger does not become angry, it will be treated as a sick cat.

So this kind of [叶公好龙] -style (professed love of what one actually feared) petulant “anger management needs” are simply not enough to “The real anger control needs” to support the kind of decisive.

Whenever you can’t care of loving, you don’t think of loving people as the righteousness that people must do, talking about “anger management” is just futile.

It is only learning the skill of seeing which way the wind blows and how to pretend not to be angry with whom you can not be angry with. – It’s just a technique to learn how to pretend not to be angry.

One may ask, "Why is it futile?

Here’s the thing - it’s fatal for the person who is tend to be vented anger on to not have the ability to see who is likely to be angry at all times.

And for the “anger” party, they do not think how serious their anger accidentally token out will be - and even personally hope that the other party won’t wait for their irritation to show when they know.

To really control anger, that is, from the root to cut off the source of anger, to be a kind of decisive determination.

If you really want to control your anger, you have to accept that it is not the norm. “Accept becoming different from the vast majority of people”, which in itself has been the vast majority of people scared and discouraged.

The thing that causes anger is often objectively there is a pending “guilt”.

• The fundamental way to control anger is not to pin the crime on others and then find ways to stop themselves from “executing the sentence”, but **

If the sin is imposed on others, the anger control is just self-deception. This anger has been signed, want to stop it from all manifestations, will all down to drain.

To fundamental not to be angry with people, there is only one really effective means, is ** will be the sin to their own **, ** undertake it alone **.

And it cannot be out of pride, out of a desire for sanctification; it must be seen as a meritless duty, a rightful duty.

This is not your fault, this is my fault, and why am I to be angry with you?

• This cannot be done by man alone. **

Removing the providence, what remains is the responsibility of people. And among the responsibilities of people, “others’ responsibility” depends on your choice of other people.

Yes, it’s another one’s fault, but you chose other people, you can not force them to do everything “should not wrong”.

Every thing is small, simple, and should be done. But to do all the things that should be done at the same time is a demand that is not humanly possible. It is forcing man to become God.

Who is at fault for hating human beings and blaming them because they are not God?

It’s my fault.

If you promise something and do not do it, you should recover it according to the contract, but as the party who signed the contract and defined the responsibility for breach of contract to his satisfaction, do I have the position to blame the other party for failing to perform?

If there is no [liquidated damages] as consideration for accepting the psychological preparation for the possibility of default, what is the purpose of agreeing to liquidated damages?

Digging deeper, if you want, all the guilt - that is, the position of fury - can either be attributed to heaven, or to yourself.

All the parties are guilty, and the sin is only on myself.

And to be angry at yourself is to blame yourself for being inferior to the perfect God? Is it not natural that man is inferior to God?

Up to here, all positions of anger are dissolved.

There is no anger to be born, and naturally there will be no anger to be controlled. This is the only way to truly control anger.

The question is, are you willing to cut your flesh to feed the eagle, to feed the tiger with your body, and to willingly take the blame for your sins without taking the credit?

As long as you do not want to, the world has prepared thousands of reasons for you to tell yourself not to do is righteous, is reasonable, is positive, is “normal”, the other side absolutely deserved. You won’t be pressured, you won’t be torn, and you will easily get the approval and “support” of millions of people.

Only you have to do this for some incomprehensible and unimaginable “illogical” reasons, you can do it.

Without doubting, by following that “logic”, mankind will be destroyed by all “justified revenge”.

Love does not conform to that logic.

Thankfully, it does.